The Art of Being – the art of functioning as a whole person – can be considered the supreme goal of life, a breakthrough occurs when we move from narcissistic selfishness and egotism – from having – to psychological and spiritual happiness – being.
How to Be Pleasant
Pleasantness is an art that needs to be cultivated. In this blog, I will take you on a journey to Pleasant Ville guided by the wise words of Sadhguru.
Jagii Vasudev (born 3 September 1957) more commonly known as Sadhguru is an Indian yogi, mystic and author. His biographer, Arundathi Subramaniam, described him in her book Sadhguru – More than a life as someone who is multi-dimensional, someone who is flamboyant, exuberant, remarkably compassionate, warm, friendly, funny, but who can also be remote, enigmatic, provocative and unpredictable. Sadhguru leads a remarkable and unguarded life, allowing everyone to see all the various facets of this personality – from wild motorbike rider to being a mystic, a yogi and a guru. His wise words, here about being pleasant, and teaching have helped and inspired many all over the world.
The Art of Being Pleasant
All human experience is coming from within. One of your missions in life should be to become as stable as a mountain; because it is only when somebody has a very stable base that many things can happen. Exhuberance of life is possible only if there is absolute stability in your life; otherwise exhuberance will lead to madness.
The first thing is to bring balance within yourself so that you become available to the magic of life. Balance is necessary to make this life beautiful. Human emotions are a very important aspect of being human. Emotion is a powerful thing and it is the strongest and most intense aspect of someone’s life. The question is: when you have emotions, would you prefer to have pleasant emotions or unpleasant emotions? It is an obvious choice and I bet that all of you would prefer experiencing pleasant emotions if given the choice; but in reality, a lot of people out there keep their emotions bitter a lot of the time. So the question that you have to ask yourself is: do you want to be pleasant or unpleasant?
Sadhguru Pleasant Quotes
If you become pleasant in your body, we call it health. If you become very pleasant in your body, we call it pleasure.
If your mind becomes pleasant, we call it peace. If it becomes very pleasant we call it joy.
If your emotions becomes pleasant we call it love. If it becomes very pleasant we call it compassion.
If your life energy becomes pleasant we call it bliss. If it becomes very pleasant we call it ecstasy.
If your surroundings becomes pleasant, we call it success.
People ask themselves: should I be loving? You don’t have to be loving. Just be pleasant with yourself, pleasant in your mind, pleasant with your emotions, pleasant with your energy. If you manage to do this day in and day out, you will become a wonderful human being, and you will in return be able to share all that pleasantness with people all around you.
How to be Pleasant Tips
Pleasant people are both generally happier and more enjoyable to be around. Happiness, facilitated by pleasant interaction with others, is one of the greatest contributing factors to people’s assessment of their own well-being, not to mention their overall satisfaction with their lives.
To help you learn the art of being pleasant, here are some simple tips.
- Harbor positive emotions
Make the active decision to nurture a positive mindset. This is one of the quickest ways to affect your mood and outlook, which are both constantly shaping how other people feel around you. Further, maintaining positive emotions will contribute to your own satisfaction and the amount of happiness you experience. These sentiments will also positively affect the way you interact with others.
- Choose to hold onto positive thoughts as they arise, and repeat them in your mind. Similarly, make the decision to set negative thoughts aside, and address any recurring sources of negativity.
- Think of harboring positive emotions as providing the base of an “upwards spiral” that will contribute to your own emotional health and the enjoyment others derive in your company.
- The more optimism you convey externally, the more positive experiences you’ll share. In turn, these will lead to greater personal and social comfort, success, and happiness.
- Perform acts of kindness
Acts of kindness will immediately send a pleasant, positive message to whomever witnesses or benefits from them. Further, performing acts of kindness will contribute to your own feelings of happiness. For instance, simply smiling while holding the door has the legitimate potential to improve someone’s day. Don’t miss your next chance to do so!
- Let someone go in front of you in a line
- Give a stranger or someone at work a compliment
- Enjoy the Little Things
Point out the little things that you enjoy. Take note of the little things that make you happy, and mention them to others around you. Simply spreading a sense of general contentment in the spaces you share with others will cause them to value and appreciate your presence.
- Intentionally notice the things you are grateful for and keep a record of them.
- When someone does something for you, no matter how small, recognize it.
- Give a sincere compliment to a friend, family member, romantic partner, or even a stranger. Be as specific as possible to make it more meaningful.
- Bite your tongue
Bite your tongue more often. Reduce the frequency with which you criticize or make contentious statements. When you disagree with someone, think about the specific reasons you hold a different perspective before voicing your disagreement. If you are uncertain about whether a critical comment is worth saying, try to see the scenario from the other person’s perspective. This will likely lead you to frame your perspective more pleasantly.
- Allow yourself to smile
Smiling is one of the most powerfully pleasant behaviors you can immediately start doing more often. Not only will you own mood be elevated, leading you to act more pleasantly, the smile alone will positively affect the mood of those who see it – whether they realize it or not!
Smile at people you interact with before saying hello. People will almost always smile back, and your interactions will start off pleasantly, even before either of you say a word.
SMILE first thing you open your eyes in the morning. Give thanks for another day on this planet.
I asked my kids if they were to choose between having a good mommy and a happy mommy both said happy, then I aske witch one am I and both said happy…that just filled my hearty because that is how I feel and I am happy to also project that! I like to joke a lot and I like to smile and love to see others smile. Smile has the power to uplift and change moods and perspective. You don’t have a reason to smile make up one or two or more … hahaha! Let’s do it more often!
6. Morning rituals
Have morning rituals like setting up your intention for the day before you open your eyes, rub your hands until a warm feeling sets and then place them on your eyes and just breath, that is PRANA life energy. Every morning I do this before I open my eyes and I also give thanks to the 5 elements AKASH, FIRE, AIR, WATER, EARTH. Then when get up I go to my window and bow to the vast Universe and I give thanks for holding me on this planet and for holding this planet in place.
My next one is warm water that I bow to and infuse with intentions like love, involvement, exuberance, energy, joy, patience, to this I add manuka honey and enjoy with turmeric and neem leaves.
Our breathing is intricately linked with our emotions. When angry, the breath often becomes labored, emphatic. When afraid, we find ourselves literally holding our breath, or the breath becomes very shallow and fast. In the midst of a big emotional meltdown, when a person is crying very hard, it’s the breath that you will notice which helps the upset person turn the corner into relaxing – there’s a deep inhalation in which the body trembles just a little, then shifts into relaxation. Our breath shifts, very subtly or sometimes profoundly, in response to which emotions we are feeling, and how strongly we are feeling them. The converse is also true, our breath is a miraculous physical and energetic system, which is designed to assist us in balancing our emotions, helping us work through the emotions and come quickly to a more balanced state of mind. One easy way to begin to calm yourself down when you’re feeling stressed or anxious, is simply to become aware of your breathing, and then consciously slow down your inhale, making it gentle, relaxed and full. Likewise, lengthen your exhale, allowing it to become somewhat longer than the inhale. This simple step alone, becoming conscious of our breath, brings us into a greater sense of being in our power, and shifting out of fear. To drop a little deeper into a relaxed state, focus on expanding the inhale to the point that you are fully engaging the diaphragm, and this sends an automatic signal to the brain to tell the body to relax. Your muscles will begin to release tension, allowing your blood circulation to increase, creating a positive cycle of increased relaxation.
Seat on cross legged position with your back erect or any comfortable position and see your breath going in as white or any other color that you enjoy sparkles, glitter and see it coming out a s grey or dust or smock. Focus on you r breath in and out, in and out for a few minutes and then just relax. Very simple and easy way to experience life.
Mediation does not have to be long and feel like a chore or feel like it’s hard. In actuality if you just sit with your eyes preferably closed but also open is an option as it is not a set way of experiencing it as we are al unique beings, and just let your breath flow at its own pace for as long as you need even for 2 minutes. 2 minutes everyday has the potential to change one’s life. Meditation is as simple as you sitting in your own company and enjoying it. Meditation is a simply as looking at a flower, or the sky.
“Meditation” or “Dhyana” means to go beyond the limitations of the physical body and the mind. Only when you transcend the limited perspective of the body and the mind do you have a complete dimension of life within you. When you are identified as the body, your whole life is only about survival. When you are identified as the mind, your whole perspective is enslaved to the social perspective, religious perspective, or the family perspective. You can’t look beyond that. Only when you become free from the modifications of your own mind will you know the dimension of the beyond.” -Sadhguru
9. Wear colors that uplift you
Depending on how you feel or your mood consciously choose colors hat uplift you or calm you. I love wearing white, rose, when I feel calm and red and burgundy and black when I feel I have things i need to get done…every time I listen to my intuition I feel thee energy they reflect supporting me.
Colors including red, yellow, and orange are considered warm colors and are thought to stimulate excited emotions.
Cool colors are found on the blue end of the visible light spectrum and include blue, violet, and green. These colors are associated with calmness, coolness, and tranquility.
10. Time Management
Get clear on what needs to get done, what yo want to get done and what must get done … NEEDS, WANTS, MUSTS. I find that when there is clarity about these and tackle witch approach is better then things unfold more easily. Write down your to dos, desires, dreams and keep on adding when you feel inspired. I find I am using notes form 2, 3 years ago….it amazes me.
One of the greatest lessons in life is to accept ourselves. In my experience this was a life time lesson because of the many beliefs that I have gathered throughout my life. This is at no fault to anyone but definitely I see now the role of influence family, friends, society has played in my life. Many, many lessons and I would not have it any different because I see now that it was all meant to be. I have learnt to accept myself with my gifts and flaws and I have also learnt to accept those around me with their gifts and flaws…this is the BIGGEST lesson I had to learn and I am ecstatic to show up NOW as an all-inclusive being.
Grounding, also called earthing, is a therapeutic technique that involves doing activities that “ground” or electrically reconnect you to the MOTHER EARTH.
This practice relies on earthing science and grounding physics to explain how electrical charges from the earth can have positive effects on your body.
Simple walking bare foot on the grass, sand, by planting and maintaining the garden. Other ways are sun bathing, moon gazing, butterfly gazing, humming birds gazing, submersing in rivers, lakes and oceans, picking rocks…so many beautiful ways to connect with the EARTH.
Why use grounding?
There’s not much research on the benefits of grounding. However, people have reported improvement for conditions such as:
- In Chronic fatigue individuals report significant decreased levels.
- In Chronic pain individuals report lower pain levels.
- In Anxiety and depression individuals report even 1 hour of grounding therapy can significantly improve mood.
- In Sleep disorders individuals report improvement in sleep length and reduce sleep disturbances.
- In Cardiovascular disease individuals report long-term self-administered grounding therapy helped to reduce blood pressure levels in individuals with hypertension
Hug a tree, touch or smell a flower
Consciously come in contact with all this life on this planet that is in the form of trees, plants…We are all here togethers. The only difference between us and them is that we have a consciousness and they don’t, but they are no less life then us.
Acknowledge them because they are feeding this body and keep us alive and well.
Go for a hike, go for a short walk in a park, walk on the beach….Endless possibilities to connect with NATURE.
Decluttering is a very powerful action one take to experience more freedom and clarity. Decluttering emotions, beliefs is as real as any physical thing we might have acquired through our life. I was featured to write this article because I am really passionate about decluttering IN and OUT and I think that both compliment each other tremendously. Not only I get to experience joy and freedom, also on the other end the ones in need experience joy in receiving.
I hope you will start taking steps towards The Art of Being and to improve your pleasantness that will increase the quality of your social interactions and become a source of pleasantness in your own and others’ lives.